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3 Things You Should Never Do When Planning Your Own Cremation Service

12 September 2016

Derek Murphy

Planning for your own final affairs is a smart move to make at any phase of your life. Some people choose to make plans for their own cremation services while they are young and very healthy, while others decide to do so when facing a serious illness or dealing with problems as they age. Whatever your personal situation may be, here are three things you should never do when planning your own cremation service.

Stop! Don't Let Others' Opinions Rule Your Service

Although you do want to keep the feelings of your loved ones in mind as you plan your own cremation service, you shouldn't let anyone's possible opinion stop you from planning the exact service that you want for yourself. A cremation service is an event that's allowed to be all about you! Choose your favorite music. Ask exactly who you want to speak. Do things your way. If you start to imagine someone responding negatively to a choice you are making, don't let that possibility hold you back. Make bold choices for your service.

Stop! Don't Express Anger and Grudges

Although it may be tempting to exorcise old hurts in the way you plan your cremation service, try to let it go instead. Let's face it. Passive-aggression doesn't look on anybody even when they're alive, but leaving a bit of this unattractive trait to be a part of your cremation service is not flattering. It's probably not how you want to be remembered.

Try your best to let old grudges go. If you feel a lot of anger with someone you fear may be at your cremation service, it's best to leave instructions that they not be allowed at the service. It's better to be clear on your wishes on the guest list than to use this important service to air dirty laundry and express anger that should be been dealt with directly with the person.

Stop! Don't Plan in Private

Although planning your own cremation service can be an extremely personal decision, you don't want to keep it completely private. If you don't tell one or two close family members or friends details about your cremation service and how they can acquire a copy of your plans, your loved ones may have problems with carrying out the cremation service in the way that you desire. Be sure to plan it carefully with the funeral home. Leave instructions with your lawyer, too, and clue in those who are closest to you about the plan. You may even make a copy of your cremation service requests to give to your nearest and dearest ones.

Finally, as long as you follow these tips, you are likely to run into few problems with your cremation service plans. Simply avoid making these problematic choices to give you and the ones you love a greater peace of mind. For help with planning your cremation service, contact a funeral home like Romero Family Funeral Home Corp.

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